Couples Intimacy Reset

Complete each day by setting 15 minutes aside and giving each other your full attention.

Complete each day by setting 15 minutes aside and giving each other your full attention.

Day 1 — Choosing Each Other

  1. What made you want to be with me in the beginning?

  2. What still draws you to me now?

  3. What do you most hope improves between us?

  4. What does “being a team” mean to you?

Physical connection:
Hold each other’s hands and look into each other’s eyes for 60 seconds.

Day 2 — Making Space

  1. What outside stress pulls your attention away from us most?

  2. What helps you feel emotionally present?

  3. How can I make you feel more important to me?

  4. What do you need more of this week?

Physical connection:
Hug for 20 seconds without speaking.

Day 3 — Emotional Closeness

  1. When do you feel most connected to me?

  2. When do you feel most distant?

  3. What helps you feel emotionally safe?

  4. What makes you feel appreciated?

Physical connection:
Sit side-by-side and gently lean into each other for 2 minutes.

Day 4 — Feeling Valued

  1. What do you love about how I treat you?

  2. What do you wish I understood better about you?

  3. What makes you feel wanted?

  4. What do you need more of in our relationship?

Physical connection:
Give each other a 60-second shoulder or back rub.

Day 5 — Belonging

  1. When do you feel like you truly belong with me?

  2. What do you need to feel more secure in us?

  3. What hurts are still lingering?

  4. What helps you trust me?

Physical connection:
Sit facing each other and hold hands for 90 seconds.

Day 6 — Opening Up

  1. What do you struggle to say out loud?

  2. What fear gets in the way of closeness?

  3. What do you wish I understood about you?

  4. What makes it hard to be vulnerable?

Physical connection:
Hug and gently sway together for 1 minute.

Day 7 — Being Seen

  1. What part of you do you hide most?

  2. What part of you wants to be known?

  3. What makes you feel judged?

  4. What makes you feel accepted?

Physical connection:
Hold each other while sitting on the couch for 2 minutes.

Day 8 — Emotional Safety

  1. When do you feel safe with me?

  2. When do you feel misunderstood?

  3. What do you need when you’re upset?

  4. How can I respond better?

Physical connection:
Gently stroke each other’s arms or hair for 1 minute.

Day 9 — Desire & Attraction

  1. When do you feel most attractive?

  2. What makes you feel desired?

  3. What helps you feel emotionally close?

  4. What helps you feel physically close?

Physical connection:
Kiss slowly for 30 seconds.

Day 10 — Reassurance

  1. What helps you believe I want you?

  2. What triggers insecurity?

  3. What helps you relax in our relationship?

  4. What makes you feel loved?

Physical connection:
Cuddle while seated or lying down for 3 minutes.

Day 11 — Repair

  1. What hurt still feels unresolved?

  2. What do you wish I had said or done differently?

  3. What would help that hurt heal?

  4. What are you ready to let go of?

Physical connection:
Hold each other while breathing slowly for 2 minutes.

Day 12 — Forgiveness

  1. What is hardest to forgive?

  2. What makes forgiveness difficult?

  3. What would help trust grow?

  4. What does healing look like?

Physical connection:
Hold hands and gently squeeze each other’s hands for 1 minute.

Day 13 — Rebuilding Trust

  1. What makes you feel emotionally safe?

  2. What damages trust?

  3. What helps trust grow?

  4. What do you need more of from me?

Physical connection:
Sit knee-to-knee and hold hands for 2 minutes.

Day 14 — Appreciation

  1. What do you admire about me?

  2. What do I do well as your partner?

  3. What do you value most about us?

  4. What makes you proud of our relationship?

Physical connection:
Give each other a slow hug and hold for 30 seconds.

Day 15 — Emotional Bond

  1. What helps you feel close?

  2. What creates emotional distance?

  3. What strengthens our bond?

  4. What makes you feel chosen?

Physical connection:
Sit side-by-side and rest your head on each other’s shoulder for 2 minutes.

Day 16 — Connection

  1. What have you noticed improving?

  2. What feels different between us?

  3. What do you want to keep doing?

  4. What do you appreciate most?

Physical connection:
Slow dance or sway together for 2 minutes.

Day 17 — Intimacy

  1. What makes you feel close to me now?

  2. What do you want more of between us?

  3. What feels exciting about us?

  4. What makes you feel desired?

Physical connection:
Hold each other while sitting or standing for 2 minutes.

Day 18 — Commitment

  1. What makes us worth choosing?

  2. What do you want for our future?

  3. What are you willing to work on?

  4. What makes you feel hopeful?

Physical connection:
Hold hands and gently rub each other’s thumbs for 1 minute.

Day 19 — Gratitude

  1. What are you thankful for about me?

  2. What do you value in our relationship?

  3. What growth do you see?

  4. What feels better now?

Physical connection:
Hug from behind for 30 seconds each.

Day 20 — Reconnection

  1. What makes you feel emotionally close now?

  2. What makes you feel physically close?

  3. What do you want to keep nurturing?

  4. What makes you feel secure?

Physical connection:
Cuddle or lie together quietly for 3 minutes.

Day 21 — Renewal

  1. What has changed over these 21 days?

  2. What do you feel toward me now?

  3. What do you want to keep doing together?

  4. What are you hopeful about?

Physical connection:
Embrace each other for a full minute and end with a kiss.